How to have better relationships?

I always found it highly bizarre when people say “I am home now so I just need to let off some steam. I just need to vent. My partner just need to understand that that’s just what I do”

Why on earth would anyone be nicer to everyone else than to the people they claim to love and care about…? And it is not surprising that it puts a huge strain on any relationship because the message you are sending is one of: “Everyone else is more important to me than you.” Because everyone else gets treated with more respect and more kindness than the people at home. It’s kind of obvious how that is terrible for any relationship.
Below is a beautiful little story that demonstrates the power of being intentional, always remembering what truly is most important and how we can use our environment to positively influence our internal state. And by doing so it help you with your relationships: 

The Troubles Tree

A woman hired a carpenter to help her restore an old farmhouse had just finished a rough first day on the job. A flat tyre made him lose an hour of work, his electric saw quit, and now his ancient pickup truck refused to start.

While she drove him home, he sat in stoney silence. On arriving, he invited her in to meet his family. As they walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands.

After opening the door, he underwent an amazing transformation. His tanned face was wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss. 

Afterwards, he walked the lady back to her car. As they passed the tree her curiosity got the better of her. She asked him about what she had seen him do earlier. “Oh, that’s my trouble tree,” he replied. “I know I can’t help having troubles on the job, but one thing is for sure, troubles don’t belong in the house with my wife and the children.
So, I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home. Then in the morning, I pick them up again.”
“Funny thing is,” he smiled, “when I come out in the morning to pick them up, there aren’t nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before.” – Author unknown

I just love the simplicity and the power of this story. I also love showing up your best for the ones who really care about you… That’s how you build strong and good relationships!